Can you believe these two crazy teenagers?
Who would have thought they would still be together? (Larry & I secretly wonder who thinks this about our marriage - LOL)
Happy thirteen to us! Today is our thirteenth wedding anniversary!
We've been through so much together - it's amazing we're still standing most days! Yet, we keep doing that crazy thing - persevering!
We don't have any big plans for our anniversary, typically we take family vacation during our anniversary time as our way of celebrating. It means more to us to be together than anything that comes in a box. We are so not presents people - I love them, but have grown beyond them!
We don't have any big evaluations of our marriage to go through or creating huge life plans together. Some couples do this and it works for them. But, I have only discovered deep disappointment when Larry & I have tried to do this - for us, it's almost a complete set-up - were our goals out of line - no not really, were they too big - no big expectations. The big disppointments would come when life stuff would come in and take out our plans again and again...to the point that the big life plans were destroyed.
I recently read the Undomestic Goddess by Sophie Kinsella. I know it's not deep philosophical literature, yet there was a simple message that came through for me. The main character was in a big vision corporate world and came crashing down around her. She was deep into disillusionment about what her life was 'supposed' to turn out like. As she is putting pieces back together, another character steps in and says 'You don't need a big vision life plan, you only have to know what you're going to do next.'
How true! After each crisis Larry & I have been through, it's what we do next that keeps us moving through it. After 13 years together, this is where we've landed. We know what's next and that's what we're doing. What's next for us - keeping other's agenda's out of our way and moving forward with ours - it's time for us to move forward. So many well intentioned and not so well intentioned have interupted our marriage. There are key moments this has happened on either Larry or I's side of the relationship. I have to confess it's more my issue than his and yet, he loves me again and again.
The next simple things we're doing next:
- out of debt
- add adventure into our time together daily (go swim, walk or learn together)
- talk about big ideas we each are having, seeing which ones are credible and then going after them - right now planning a move to arizona is on the front burner
- getting motorcycles (Larry has his license and I need to learn, but his and hers in the drive way are scheduled for our 40's - which Larry hits next year)
To celebrate the start of our teenage years together, we are:
- going on a date
- going to a simple diner like Mugs Up or Huer's Cafe, i want really good onion rings
- maybe stroll around the columns on MU campus, that's where he proposed
and that is simply the next thing we have to do!
Happy Anniversary! Enjoy the day!
Posted by: mistihollrah | June 25, 2007 at 06:47 AM
Happy Anniversary! Celebrate each other all day long! Take time to see where God has blessed you throughout the years together, even in the trials. Finally, a move to AZ is not allowed!
Posted by: Mindi | June 25, 2007 at 06:54 AM